Enduring cyber stalking is disrupting, exhausting, and sometimes traumatizing. It not only disrupts your life, but the consequences and the pain caused by cyber stalking goes much deeper. It gets into the victim’s head, breaks hearts, and ruins lives, marriages, and families, often leaving victims with significant psychological trauma. One of the main contributors to this is the feeling of being powerless, that they can’t do anything to stop or identify the person responsible for it. 

But we are here to tell you that you can. 

What is Cyber Stalking

what is cyber stalkingCyber stalking is when the victim is stalked and harassed through means of the internet. It can take place in the following forms: 

Online stalking behavior can include:

  • Impersonation
  • Spreading false accusations or rumors
  • Post intimate material, like nude photos or videos
  • Porn revenge
  • Sextortion
  • Harassment through ongoing anonymous texting, emails, or social media messages

Cyber Stalker Behavior

We deal with victims of a cyber stalker on a daily basis. These are some of the most common behavior traits we see: 

The stalker will find new ways to get your attention, even if you ignore them. 

For cyber stalkers, their behavior and the attention they seek are a substitute for a relationship. They want your attention all the time. When they don’t get the desired attention, their cyber stalking will increase and may become threatening. Some clients have described this to our cyber investigators as mental rape, because it forces them to engage with someone when they don’t want to. If they do or don’t respond, they can’t seem to win.

The cyber stalker starts harassing people around you.

Cyber stalkers are obsessed with their victims. They’ll check your social media multiple times a day, and stalk your friends and family’s social media to get more information about what you are up to. If they can’t seem to get the desired attention, they’ll turn to people around you to get your attention. They’ll either humiliate you or pretend to care about you. In some cases they may spread false information to your workplace to damage your reputation and career. 

The cyber stalker hacks your accounts and devices to access your information.

People who are involved in cyber stalking think and fantasize about their victims all the time. They want to gain control over you, for which they need to know everything about you. What better way to hack your devices and accounts. To prevent this from happening, always different passwords for each account, and set up two-step authentication if you have not done so already. 

The stalker seems to know a lot about your whereabouts

We often hear from victims how they feel that their stalker knows a lot about where they are. In some cases, ongoing cyber stalking causes victims to become paranoid. In other cases, the stalker pretends to know where you are to scare you. And in rare cases, they follow someone with a GPS tracker, in which case it may be worth to check your car for one.

Your options

Firstly, if you fear for your safety or of someone else around you, contact the police immediately. If there are no clear threats in the messages, it is unfortunately unlikely that the police will help because they are understaffed or simply don’t know what to do. To increase your chances of the police helping you, make sure to collect evidence of all incoming messages.

Then tell your cyber stalker to stop. Do this once, and disengage immediately after. If you keep responding, you will give the stalker exactly the attention they crave. 

If you know who your stalker is, collect evidence of this as well to give to the police. 

But in most cases, the stalker is anonymous and hiding behind VPNs, fake phone numbers, burner phones, fake social media profiles, and Proton email addresses. If the harassment is ongoing and actively happening now, our investigators can help you trace the cyber stalking back to an IP address, device details, and more valuable information. If you have a suspect, we can rule in or rule out this person so you don’t have to subpoena, which saves you a lot of time and money. 


Laws on Cyber Stalking

In the United States

In the US, both state and federal laws prohibit cyber stalking. Only the cyber stalking law in Florida states that the stalking has to occur within the state’s borders. Whereas according to federal law cyber stalking is within and crosses state lines. So when someone from Texas harasses someone in Florida via online means, cyber stalking will fall under federal jurisdiction. 

The federal law about cyber stalking is 18 U.S.C. § 2261A(2). According to this law, it’s unlawful for any individual to engage through electronic communication in a way that makes another individual reasonably fear death or bodily harm to themselves or someone around them. Even if it causes substantial emotional distress. 

For someone to be considered a cyber stalker under federal law, they must have actioned with the intention of:

  • Harass 
  • Kill
  • Injure
  • Intimidate
  • Keep someone under surveillance with the intent to do any of the above.

In Australia 

In Australia, you can file criminal charges Under the Criminal Law Consolidation Act 1935 (SA) under which it is a criminal offence to make an “unlawful threat” to harm or kill a person. This unlawful threat can be done through using electronic technology.

These are the unlawful threats.

Threat to kill

S 19 (1) Someone is committing an unlaw threat if that person: 

(a) threatens, without lawful excuse, to kill or endanger the life of someone else; and

(b) intends to cause a fear that the threat will be,or is likely to be, carried out, or is recklessly indifferent as to whether such a fear is aroused.

Threat to cause harm

S 19 (2) Someone is committing an unlaw threat if that person: 

(a) threatens, without lawful excuse, to cause harm to someone else; and

(b) intends to cause a fear that the threat will be, or is likely to be, carried out, or is recklessly indifferent as to whether such a fear is aroused.

Or under the s 31 of the Crimes Act 1900 (NSW), the following actions considered an offence:

“A person who intentionally or recklessly, and knowing its contents, sends or delivers, or directly or indirectly causes to be received, any document threatening to kill or inflict bodily harm on any person is liable to imprisonment for 10 years.”